I recently finished reading Glennon Doyle Melton's book Carry On, Warrior: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life and I found it to be such an inspiring and lovely read. Any woman, momma, warrior who wants to be reminded of how normal it is to have a messy life would feel validated by reading this book. Here are the three quotes I found most encouraging for my own messy journey:
“My most important parenting job is to teach my children how to deal with being human. There is really only one way to deal gracefully with being human, and that is: forgive yourself. It's not a once-and-for-all thing, self-forgiveness. It's more like a constant attitude. It's just being hopeful. It's refusing to hold your breath. It's loving yourself enough to offer yourself a million more tries. It's what we want our kids to do every day for their whole lives, right? We want them to embrace being human instead of fighting against it. We want them to offer themselves grace. Forgiveness and grace are like oxygen: we can't offer it to others unless we put our masks on first. We have to put our grace masks on and breathe in deep. We have to show them how it's done. We need to love ourselves if we want our kids to love themselves. We don't necessarily have to love them more; we have to love ourselves more. We have to be gentle with ourselves. We have to forgive ourselves and then...oh my goodness...find ourselves sort of awesome, actually, considering the freaking circumstances.”
“Kind people are brave people. Brave is not something you should wait to feel. Brave is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd.”
"There are only two lives we might live: our dream or our destiny. Sometimes they are one in the same, and sometimes they're not. Often our dreams are just a path to our destinies... While you dream your dreams, he's busy building your destiny. And there is as much beauty in your destiny as there was in your dream. Let go and believe that whatever it is, it will be beautiful."
Oh my, how that last quote speaks to my momma soul. Moving my family, closing my practice, starting again in a new place...That wasn't my dream. I've had a difficult time letting go of my practice and the work I did with my wonderful clients in the Antelope Valley. But I am in the process of letting go, and believing that this next part of my destiny will be beautiful.
That is my wish for you, dear reader. That you would find the courage to see when your dream doesn't match up with your destiny, and then let it go.